Lessons from the Ladies of Mom 2.0 (part 1 of 2)

Mom 2.0 Summit 2016 Dana Point, CA

 

I got to attend the last day of Mom 2.0 this year, the premier annual conference for mom bloggers. There were thousands of bloggers, brands, mompreneurs, influencers, and social media gurus, most of them moms.

 

This year’s conference was at the Four Season in Laguna Niguel. It was a gorgeous location, lots of pampering, free swag, and a great catered lunch.

 

So good! My massage therapist was a hapa mama too--we bonded.

So good! My massage therapist was a hapa mama too–we bonded.

 

But what I got from the day was more than just a free bra and a foot massage. These lady business folk had A LOT of knowledge that applies equally to pursuing an acting career and being a parent. In fact there was so much knowledge dropped that I had to break it up into two parts to make it more absorbable. Here’s lesson number 1…

 

Mom 2.0 Lesson 1: Put on your Wonder Woman bracelets.

 

It’s the rare woman that truly believes they have inherent super powers, like they are born for greatness. I know I doubt my abilities, question my desires, talk myself out of my grand ideas. Just last week I did this. On Monday I had a great idea for a series, I mean the kind of sticky, I-can’t get-this-out-of-my-head idea that keeps you up at night. But by Friday I had talked myself out of even writing a summary, even attempting a treatment, let alone a script. “I’m not a writer” I said. “I don’t know anyone” I said. “Maybe as a webseries” I said.

 

The idea of Wonder Woman bracelets is that you don’t have to feel like you were born a super hero to exercise your super powers, you just have to know where your bracelets are and how to put them on. The idea of Wonder Woman bracelets gets at the very core of female self confidence. And Wonder Woman bracelets, like confidence, go with every outfit.

 

In a fantastic article called The Confidence Gap that was published in The Atlantic, Katty Kay and Claire Shipman came to this conclusion:

 

“Compared with men, women don’t consider themselves as ready for promotions, they predict they’ll do worse on tests, and they generally underestimate their abilities. This disparity stems from factors ranging from biology to upbringing. A growing body of evidence shows just how devastating this lack of confidence can be. Success, it turns out, correlates just as closely with confidence as it does with competence.

 

Let me say that one more time: success correlate with confidence just as closely as it does with competence. So run to your nearest jewelry store or metal shop, rummage through your cluttered earrings and tangled necklaces until you find your Wonder Woman bracelets and teach yourself how to strap them on when you need them. Strap those babies on before a big audition, meeting or phone call (or, if you’re like me, every day as you deal with your own resistance). Shine them up when you need to have a hard conversation with your agent. Hold up your wrists and see those suckers glint in the sunlight after a long day of laundry and diapers. You. have. those. bracelets. I know you do, just go find them and put them on.

Find your Wonder Woman bracelets and strap them on. Click To Tweet

 

Want more from Mom 2.0? Here’s part 2 of my lessons from the ladies of Mom 2.0, on gathering your legion of secret squirrels.

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on confidence, mamas. Comment below or head over to The Mama Actor Community Facebook group and join the conversation there.